My very HOPP-y micro-weddingBy Emilie Hall
My very HOPP-y micro-wedding
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It was summer 2020 and we were going back and forth – should we postpone our wedding for the second time or plan something smaller and get married now? Neither my fiancé nor I had ever been to a micro-wedding so we had no idea what to expect. Weren’t they a bit tragic, a bit sombre, a bit... Gretna Green? Surely it wouldn’t be a real wedding without the welcome party and the after party and the bridesmaids and the band.
But we were tired of having our hopes dashed and we really did want to get married, so we decided to put aside our big-wedding snobbery and plan a pint-sized celebration. As soon as we started, we realised how small-minded we had been about small weddings – this was a godsend in disguise! Our budget was magically expanding to include individual cheese boards and calligraphed menus and a fantastical flower arch. There was no headache-inducing spreadsheet detailing 200 people’s demented dietary requirements. And I didn’t even have to buy stamps, I just rang our family and godparents and said,
“We’re getting married, do you want to come?”
“Yes, please.” Done.
And of course I was wrong about the day itself. There was nothing dour about it – it was filled with family, flowers, food, (a few) friends and, most importantly of all, a beautiful husband at the end of the aisle. It felt like someone had found the pressure valve, let out all the nerves and worry and expectation and left pure distilled joy.
I’m certainly not the only Covid bride to be seduced by the small wedding. My friend Frederica (whose understated London wedding in November was elegance itself) told me, “I loved having a much more intimate wedding and would recommend it to anyone and everyone! I knew that even if it rained, or things didn’t go to plan, it completely didn’t matter because the day was all about us. We could all be authentically ourselves without any concern for appearances. Eventually, when the world opens up again, we are really looking forward to a wild party, but I am so grateful for that special day with just our families.”
Hopefully, one day soon, we will go to big parties again, but I sincerely hope that these petite but perfectly formed weddings are here to stay, too.